The holidays are filled with fun events, great food, and of course…family and friends. Whether or not the ones closest to you are aware of your unexpected pregnancy, they’re going to recognize something is different and that’s okay. 

This holiday season, be empowered. Your pregnancy is your story to tell or not to tell. Although those around you mean well, don’t allow their awkward “politeness” to affect you or your decisions. You know what’s best for you. 

Here are a few more tips for how to navigate the holidays with an unexpected pregnancy. 

Your Feelings Are Valid

Mood swings are one of the symptoms of pregnancy. Your body is being flooded with hormones and it’s perfectly natural to be emotional. Give yourself the freedom to feel all the highs and lows. It’s a scary, uncertain time and you have every right to experience the sorrow and joy of an unexpected pregnancy. 

Take Care Of Yourself First

Find time to relax during the holidays. Fatigue is another natural symptom you may be feeling. Set boundaries for yourself and don’t be afraid to speak up. If toxic relatives or friends plan to attend an event, bow out. You have the freedom to respectfully say, “No, not tonight.” 

Prepare Yourself Ahead Of Time

How many times have you left a conversation and wondered, “Why didn’t I think to say that?” Here’s your chance. Take time to think about your responses to the obvious questions. Share only what you’re comfortable sharing and don’t feel pressured to give additional information. You can’t be responsible for their feelings.

Everyone Has An Opinion

If people around you are aware of your pregnancy, they’re naturally going to have questions and opinions. They may ask “Who’s the baby’s father?” “What are you going to do?” “How are you going to take care of a baby?” Guess what? It’s really none of their business. Feel free to politely say, “I’ll tell you when the time comes.”

Try To See The Other Side

Your unexpected pregnancy was not only a shock to you, but to those around you as well. It took you some time to accept the situation, give them time too. If they’re the ones closest to you, they’re also the ones who love you the most. You need allies. Don’t push them away because they’re struggling with the circumstances. 

Nurture A Team to Help Navigate the Holidays with an Unexpected Pregnancy

There’s safety in numbers. Find family members or friends who will stand by and defend you. If you can’t find them in your circle, join ours. We’re here to support and care for you. We promise to never judge you or lecture you. 

If you’re needing some extra encouragement during the holidays, contact us. We’ll listen and maybe even offer advice, but most importantly, we’ll remind you that you are strong and courageous. Give us a call to set up an appointment. We’re on your side.