Prom season is just around the corner.  You can spend weeks working up the courage to ask someone to be your date, picking out the perfect outfit to wear, and waiting anxiously for the big day to arrive.  Prom can easily seem like a magical night where everything is perfect. You’re spending the evening dancing and spending time with your date; what could go wrong?

While prom may seem perfect, what comes after sometimes isn’t.  It’s easy to get swept up in the emotions and excitement of the night and let things go too far, which could lead to an unexpected pregnancy.  

What do you do when you find out you’re pregnant without being ready for it? Unfortunately, many women find themselves in this situation every day. It’s normal to feel nervous or confused, and it’s also normal to look for help. Here are a few of the things you should do first when you find out you’re pregnant.  At the Pregnancy Help Center South County, we offer free and confidential consultations to process all of your questions and options with you.  Call us today at 314-894-9800 or text us at 314-856-2115 to schedule an appointment.

Don’t Panic

The most important thing to remember when you find out you’re pregnant is simple: Don’t panic. It’s totally normal to feel stressed out in this situation, but you also need to stay calm and start to figure it out. Panicking and making rash decisions won’t help – you need to take your time and consider everything carefully.

Get A Pregnancy Test & Ultrasound

In most cases, women find out they’re pregnant after taking a home pregnancy test. If that’s your situation, your next step should be to take a test from a third party for verification. At the Pregnancy Help Center South County, we offer free pregnancy testing to any woman who believes she may be pregnant. Our tests are over 99% accurate, and your results are completely confidential.

Once you’ve taken a pregnancy test, you should also get a verification ultrasound to ensure your pregnancy is viable. Ultrasounds are the best way to tell if you’re really pregnant, if the embryo is healthy, and if it is located safely in your uterus. Ultrasounds can also be used to tell your approximate conception and due date. This is an important step, and you definitely don’t want to skip it.

Talk With Your Parents and Your Partner

At this stage you know for sure you are pregnant, but you may not be sure about what to do next. A good first step is to speak with your parents.  While this can be a frightening idea, you’re going to need all the help and support you can get. A good plan is to process through what you want to say before you sit down with your parents.  Write out your thoughts to capture all of your feelings on paper so you don’t forget anything that’s important for you to express.

You’ll also want to prepare yourself for your parents’ reaction.  An unexpected pregnancy can be just as surprising to them as it is you, but most of the time, how we imagine our parents will react is worse than how they actually respond to the news.  Give them space to express their emotions and let the initial shock wear off. In some cases, it might be a good idea to take some time to let them process so that you can all discuss it together with clear heads.

You’ll also want to talk with your partner and find out how he feels about the situation. It’s normal to feel vulnerable during this time, but you also need to stand up for yourself and your own feelings. If you’re not in a committed relationship, he may pressure you to terminate the pregnancy – but remember that this decision is yours. Don’t let anyone pressure you into doing something you don’t want to.

Consider Your Own Feelings

If you’re not planning for a baby, you probably feel confused, scared, or shocked. You might be thinking about how different everything will be from now on, or how you’ll be able to recover. These feelings are normal, and you shouldn’t be afraid to experience and express them. Holding your feelings in or denying they exist is a path to unhappiness and turmoil. You’ll feel better if you’re honest about your own feelings and emotions.

Find Another Perspective

It’s normal to want to keep your pregnancy a secret when you aren’t sure what you want to do next. But you shouldn’t be afraid to tell trusted friends or family members. The best way to get help with inner pain and confusion is by finding another point of view.

Of course, if you don’t feel like you have anyone you can trust with your pregnancy news, we’re always happy to help. At the Pregnancy Help Center South County, we can simply sit with you and talk about your options, your feelings, and your plans for what to do next. Many of our caring staff have been through similar situations, and they’re always glad to offer another point of view.

Remember, though, that you should only tell people whom you trust to be supportive and non-judgmental. Don’t tell your friends or relatives if they have a history of pinning their expectations or feelings on you. At this point you need support and care, not outside pressure.

Understand Your Options

You might be feeling stuck, like you have no choices now that you’re pregnant. This isn’t the case. You have several options, including the option to parent your baby yourself, to place it for adoption, or to consider abortion. Each of these options has different considerations you’ll need to work through, and only you can decide which is best for you. At the Pregnancy Help Center South County, our compassionate staff can help you learn more about each option and which is the best for your situation when you come in for an appointment.

Get Free Help

It’s common for women facing an unplanned pregnancy to feel trapped or like they don’t have any options. The Pregnancy Help Center South County can help. To learn about the options available to you, get free pregnancy resources and help, and talk to someone who will listen without judgment, contact us today. Call 314-894-9800 or text 314-856-2115 to schedule your free and confidential appointment. Walk-ins are welcome.